Outfits

Feeling Wild

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 13, 2013
Shirt: NY&C via thredUP | Necklace: JCPenney – gift card via giveaway win (similar) | Skirt: vintage – $6 (similar) | Heels: Vince Camuto – $76 (similar) | Total = $82
Check out my new shirt from thredUP!! Feeling wild over here!! (So my thredUP code is over, but you can still get $10 off your first purchase if you click this link.)
Since I’ve been working from home, I don’t have a lot of chances to dress up so I’ve mostly been buying loose and comfy clothes as opposed to dressier items like this one. But I couldn’t resist this animal print! Plus, it’s black and white so it’s pretty much a classic, right? (…just go with it.)
So HEY! GroopDealz is having a birthday giveaway that you should check out!! Or not. More chances of me winning.. Hehehheehe! Also, I’ll take one of each pleaseandthankyou.

Red by Melissa

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 2013
Button-up: Gap (similar) | Shirt: Shade Clothing (similar) | Jeans: J.Crew | Shoes: Sperry | Clutch: Anthropologie (similar) | Necklace: gift

Hey, CM readers! This is an outfit I wore out before I left for army. We met up with my cute sis-in-law and her now hubs at Macy’s. They were playing house with the magic registry gun. Anyone remember how fun that was? I think my husband successfully registered us for everything in kitchen ware – my chef! We stole away from kitchen ware to the furniture section to grab these photos. It’s a fun game of hurry-and-try-to-take-a-photo-before-someone-sees…stage fright. But hey, fabulous wall, right? 😉


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Print Button-Up Shirt: From Day to Night

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 09, 2013

Top: Gap via thredUP | Flowerc/o Hot Magnets | Shorts: Gap Outlet (refashioned from these!) – $26 | FlatsHush Puppies – $70 | Total = $96
I wore this last weekend when my parents were in town and Chase and I were able to go grocery shopping BY OURSELVES. It was amazing. No intricate car seat buckles, no trying to contain a handsy and wiggly baby in the shopping cart, is this what heaven is like? I think I can hear angels singing..
I just got this button-up from thredUP and I’m in love. They’re TEA CUPS! I didn’t realize I was so whimsical.
Close up of my….crotch? :/ Just focus on the tea cups…
Top: Gap via thredUP | Flowerc/o Hot Magnets | Jeans: thrifted Target (and skinnied) – $8 (similar) | Shoes: Target – gift (similar) | Total = $8

We also had a birthday dinner that night for my brother-in-law and I wanted to dress up and to cut down on standing in front of my closet for an hour trying on 298374 different outfits again, I just changed out the bottoms and shoes. Afterwards, my parents watched Grey while some of us went to my BIL’s friends’ band play for their 10th(!!!!!) anniversary. It was so loud and late and I felt so old, butbutbut….we did young people stuff!!!11


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Sign up sheet right here

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 05, 2013
TeeTarget – $6 | Necklacesc/o Max & Chloe, Forever 21 – $3 | Pants: via sample sale – $1 (similar) | Sandals: Walmart – $10 (similar) | Total = $20
This past weekend my parents came to visit. Those who know me and/or follow me on Twitter know that it is the MOST stressful thing for me. It’s been better since we’ve had Grey so their attention is placed elsewhere…i.e., away from me and onto Grey who soaks up all the attention like a ShamWow.
The best part of their stay was a half an hour before I was supposed to go pick them up when Grey had the BIGGEST blow out of the century…like all over his car seat, his legs, and his arms and hands. I think I puked in my mouth a little…or a lot. I had also reserved that half an hour to do a last minute cleaning for my neurotic and germophobe mother. Instead, I spent TWO hours bathing Grey and cleaning, dissassembling, washing, drying, and REassembling the car seat. I thought I was going to die of a stress attack that day…and I would’ve welcomed it. I did not sign up for this…!!!!!
Anyone have any good news today? Just writing this out again is making me anxious and giving me hot flashes..

(And, yes, I totally copied the fabulous Sydney’s outfit.)

P.S.. If you missed it, there’s a giveaway going on right now for a colorful short-sleeve maxi dress HERE!


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Iffy by Melissa

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 03, 2013
Button-up: Madewell (similar) | T-shirt: Shade Clothing | Skirt: Madewell (similar) | Shoes: J.Crew (very similar!)
To be honest, I am not quite sure what I was thinking here. Was it “How many patterns can I fit in ONE outfit?” or “I am going to pick blindly from the closet and just put it on.” Maybe it was “I am going to be wearing camo for the next month – get in all other patterns while you still can.” Whatever it was, I still thought it was pretty fantastic till about half way through the day. Then it was more like, “What am I wearing?!?” Anyone else feel iffy about their outfit choices as the day ends?

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A Greybaby in the pool

TUESDAY, AUGUST 27, 2013
So continuing from my last outfit post from our weekend at my in-laws’….
..and we had to document every second of it, obvs. I couldn’t handle him in his swim trunks and sunglasses!!!
“Get off my raft, woman.”
Verdict? He looooooved it. Once he got used to the water, he wouldn’t stop kicking. My little froggy. He especially loved his little tube. And my best mom moment? I was holding him in his tube and I must have had my hands too close to the middle and his whole face went under. :X :X :X He definitely drank some water and cried and cried and I just wanted to die right there. I feel horrible just thinking about it again.

But this shows that he forgave me, right? <3

Necklacec/o Max & Chloe | Sweater: Gap via thredUP (similar) | Tank (underneath): J.Crew c/o thredUP (similar) | Jeans: Gap via thredUP (similar) | Shoes: Target – gift (similar) | Total = $0!!!!
Now on to the outfit… This whole dealio is basically from thredUP and if you haven’t checked it out yet, WHY. Gogogo. You still have a few days left to use my 35% off coupon code and free shipping!!! (..compared to getting free shipping when you spend $50.) Just enter CM35 at check out.

Our neighborhood has tons of stray cats. I sometimes put out food for them, but I think the coons have been eating it all.. Jerks.

That weekend was Second Saturday in Sacramento, which is a combination of an art walk/live music/markets/lots and lots of people, which my nervous/anxious self LOVES. There was this one band we saw play called YACHT. Have anybody heard of ’em? I haven’t, but the few songs they played I instantly liked.
That picture on the right there? The guy was holding a sign that said “all you are right now in this moment is enough” and it just got me right in the feels that I had to share..
Welp, seeya.

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Toofer (Two outfits in one)

FRIDAY, AUGUST 23, 2013
I miss 30 Rock.. 🙁 Moving on… with a tear.
Blazer: Modest Mob – $30 | Necklacec/o Max & Chloe | Tank: J.Crew c/o thredUP (similar) | Jeans: Gap via thredUP (similar) | Sneakers: Forever 21 – $10 (similar) | Total = $40

I wore this casual get-up a couple weekends ago when we had a sleepover at my in-laws’ house. We go there a few times each month and sometimes stay the night because it’s our second home…and they have a pool…and stocked fridge and pantry…and cable. It’s like, why did we leave again?? (To backtrack, we lived with them for a few months earlier this year while I was recovering from a C-section and so we’d have more time finding an apartment for our new family of tres.)

I realized right after I put this outfit on that I wore the same tank top and light blazer as I did here:

It just goes together, you know? And by “goes“, I mean that blazer is the lightest covering I have for this kind of weather. Come on…..FALL!
So I guess you can consider the outfit below as a casual after-church version??

K, moving on to the newest addition to my closet….these straight leg jeans. My very first pair. I’m calling them The New Boyfriend Jeans. They’re just as comfy but with a more fitted leg, so it doesn’t look like you’re actually wearing your boyfriend’s jeans. And they’re kind of my favorite right now and forever.

Hey! My thredUP code is still active! 35% off and free shipping for new customers when you use CM35.

Oh, and here are some pics of my baby in a hat because I couldn’t get enough of him on my Insta. <3

And some more. Story:  My father-in-law thrifted this tiny armchair and bought it for Grey!! It’s the perfect size for him to lounge and watch his Saturday morning cartoons once a month and demand his milk. Please tell me I’m not the only one who sees a future teenage Grey.. Someone stop time!!!! :(:( I’m not ready.

Pantsless no less.
HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND! Try not to die in this heat. For me.

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Birthday Present by Melissa

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 21, 2013

 Blazer: Forever 21 (similar) | Top: gift (similar) | Skirt: Madewell (similar) | FlatsTarget | Dog Tags: Army

For my birthday this year, I got a giggling phone call from my brother asking my size and then this top came in the mail a few weeks later. My family is a mixed bag of laughter/concern/pride in my joining the army. Admittedly, I was never planning on having an army print in my wardrobe (aside from my standard uniform). So this top presented itself as a challenge. My closet might have ended up all over the floor before I could figure out what to wear it with… Anyone else get those occasional clothing gifts that stump your fashion sense??


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Rawr

FRIDAY, AUGUST 16, 2013
T-shirt: Forever 21 – $4 | Belt: thrifted – $2 | Skirt: via thredUP – $1 | ShoesHush Puppies – $70 | Total = $77
I wore this a couple weekends ago when Chase and I were running errands and shopping. Now that this guy has a job with a business dress code, we’re starting to realize a work wardrobe solely based on H&M isn’t going to last very long. So we went to Nordstrom during their anniversary sale and bumped into an internet friend of mine, Kali!! She used to have a fashion blog and is a photographer in Stockton. We’ve been talking about getting together so it was so funny to see her out of the blue. She’s the sweetest and it was so great to finally meet her in person. Even Grey couldn’t get enough of her! 🙂

P.S. ThredUP gave me a coupon code to share with new customers. Enter CM35 at check-out to get 35% off and free shipping!! Or use this link to get $10 off your first purchase (no free shipping). Unfortunately, you can’t use both deals! The code expires at the end of the month so getitgetit.

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Puppy Chic by Rebecca

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 14, 2013
Top: Target (similar) | Skirt: DIY (similar) | Jacket: Zara (similar) | Sunglasses: RayBan (similar)

Grizz, the ever growing 10-week-old bullmastiff, was over on the other side of the yard doing what he does best (going to the bathroom) when he decided to join in the photo fest. So to those of you who love puppies, you’re welcome. Now you can stare at his cute face instead of studying the transparency of this skirt. And to those of you who don’t love puppies, I’m sorry. That must be a very sad existence.


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Print Button-Up Shirt: From Day to Night

Top: Gap via thredUP | Flowerc/o Hot Magnets | Shorts: Gap Outlet (refashioned from these!) – $26 | FlatsHush Puppies – $70 | Total = $96
I wore this last weekend when my parents were in town and Chase and I were able to go grocery shopping BY OURSELVES. It was amazing. No intricate car seat buckles, no trying to contain a handsy and wiggly baby in the shopping cart, is this what heaven is like? I think I can hear angels singing..
I just got this button-up from thredUP and I’m in love. They’re TEA CUPS! I didn’t realize I was so whimsical.

 

Close up of my….crotch? :/ Just focus on the tea cups…
Top: Gap via thredUP | Flowerc/o Hot Magnets | Jeans: thrifted Target (and skinnied) – $8 (similar) | Shoes: Target – gift (similar) | Total = $8

We also had a birthday dinner that night for my brother-in-law and I wanted to dress up and to cut down on standing in front of my closet for an hour trying on 298374 different outfits again, I just changed out the bottoms and shoes. Afterwards, my parents watched Grey while some of us went to my BIL’s friends’ band play for their 10th(!!!!!) anniversary. It was so loud and late and I felt so old, butbutbut….we did young people stuff!!!11

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TeeTarget – $6 | Necklacesc/o Max & Chloe, Forever 21 – $3 | Pants: via sample sale – $1 (similar) | Sandals: Walmart – $10 (similar) | Total = $20
This past weekend my parents came to visit. Those who know me and/or follow me on Twitter know that it is the MOST stressful thing for me. It’s been better since we’ve had Grey so their attention is placed elsewhere…i.e., away from me and onto Grey who soaks up all the attention like a ShamWow.
The best part of their stay was a half an hour before I was supposed to go pick them up when Grey had the BIGGEST blow out of the century…like all over his car seat, his legs, and his arms and hands. I think I puked in my mouth a little…or a lot. I had also reserved that half an hour to do a last minute cleaning for my neurotic and germophobe mother. Instead, I spent TWO hours bathing Grey and cleaning, dissassembling, washing, drying, and REassembling the car seat. I thought I was going to die of a stress attack that day…and I would’ve welcomed it. I did not sign up for this…!!!!!
Anyone have any good news today? Just writing this out again is making me anxious and giving me hot flashes..

(And, yes, I totally copied the fabulous Sydney’s outfit.)

P.S.. If you missed it, there’s a giveaway going on right now for a colorful short-sleeve maxi dress HERE!

I miss 30 Rock.. 🙁 Moving on… with a tear.
Blazer: Modest Mob – $30 | Necklacec/o Max & Chloe | Tank: J.Crew c/o thredUP (similar) | Jeans: Gap via thredUP (similar) | Sneakers: Forever 21 – $10 (similar) | Total = $40

I wore this casual get-up a couple weekends ago when we had a sleepover at my in-laws’ house. We go there a few times each month and sometimes stay the night because it’s our second home…and they have a pool…and stocked fridge and pantry…and cable. It’s like, why did we leave again?? (To backtrack, we lived with them for a few months earlier this year while I was recovering from a C-section and so we’d have more time finding an apartment for our new family of tres.)

I realized right after I put this outfit on that I wore the same tank top and light blazer as I did here:

It just goes together, you know? And by “goes“, I mean that blazer is the lightest covering I have for this kind of weather. Come on…..FALL!
So I guess you can consider the outfit below as a casual after-church version??

K, moving on to the newest addition to my closet….these straight leg jeans. My very first pair. I’m calling them The New Boyfriend Jeans. They’re just as comfy but with a more fitted leg, so it doesn’t look like you’re actually wearing your boyfriend’s jeans. And they’re kind of my favorite right now and forever.

Hey! My thredUP code is still active! 35% off and free shipping for new customers when you use CM35.

Oh, and here are some pics of my baby in a hat because I couldn’t get enough of him on my Insta. <3

And some more. Story:  My father-in-law thrifted this tiny armchair and bought it for Grey!! It’s the perfect size for him to lounge and watch his Saturday morning cartoons once a month and demand his milk. Please tell me I’m not the only one who sees a future teenage Grey.. Someone stop time!!!! :(:( I’m not ready.
HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND! Try not to die in this heat. For me.

What to wear in hot weather as a sister missionary

I got an email from a soon-to-be Mormon sister missionary who is going to Texas – read: hot and humid, and even more so when you have to dress modestly and be outside most of the time. I wrote a post about how to dress for that kind of weather a couple of years ago…and I still stand behind everything I said! To reiterate…
  • Keep your hair away from your face and neck.
  • Shower (at least) 5 times a day. (IT’S A JOKE! Kind of.)
  • Sunglasses and sunscreen are muy importante.
  • Wear breathable fabric like cotton. NO polyester or synthetic fabrics that may stick to your skin when you sweat.
  • Avoid layers, especially those layering tees!! Simple is best! Think basic essentials:  top, bottoms, shoes, and jewelry. You’ll be so hot you won’t care about looking good. So make sure your BASICS look good!
  • Breathable shoes…but, please… NO flip-flops.
  • Try to avoid dark colors because all that stuff you learned in science class in elementary school is f’real.

The Mormon church recently updated their missionary guidelines for dress and personal grooming that you can see here. I loved that they gave you examples, but it seems to be only for cool weather. I mean, why are they all wearing jackets?!? They’d roast here in Sacramento. (We’ve been seeing high 90s here the past couple of weeks. So I pretty much hate life.) I’d advise sister missionaries in hot climates to NOT wear jackets if you don’t want to be hospitalized. Just thinking about it is giving me hot flashes.. Instead of wearing a jacket/blazer, focus on clothing with details that will make it more professional for you.

When it’s too hot to think about looking presentable, the easiest solution would be a DRESS. You can get creative with your accessories and hair to change it up each time. Here are some missionary-worthy dress outfits (well, to me, at least.. I may be wrong.. I’ve never served a mission. I was a child-bride.)
For the outfit details going L to R.. 123456

And here are some modest dresses I found for you. All under $25!! OH YEAH

I mentioned this in my old post, and I’ll say it again… FULL SKIRTS! ..like the ones that fall away from your body. No clinging of any kind here because once you add sweat into the mix…it ain’t pretty.

What am I wearing? L-R: 12345678

And a few of my picks.. again all under $25!!

I also picked out some COTTON and RAYON TOPS that I thought were cute for a sister missionary:
OKAY, where are all my RM sisters at?!? Can you weigh in with your words of wisdom? (hehe)

Rawr

T-shirt: Forever 21 – $4 | Belt: thrifted – $2 | Skirt: via thredUP – $1 | ShoesHush Puppies – $70 | Total = $77
I wore this a couple weekends ago when Chase and I were running errands and shopping. Now that this guy has a job with a business dress code, we’re starting to realize a work wardrobe solely based on H&M isn’t going to last very long. So we went to Nordstrom during their anniversary sale and bumped into an internet friend of mine, Kali!! She used to have a fashion blog and is a photographer in Stockton. We’ve been talking about getting together so it was so funny to see her out of the blue. She’s the sweetest and it was so great to finally meet her in person. Even Grey couldn’t get enough of her! 🙂

P.S. ThredUP gave me a coupon code to share with new customers. Enter CM35 at check-out to get 35% off and free shipping!! Or use this link to get $10 off your first purchase (no free shipping). Unfortunately, you can’t use both deals! The code expires at the end of the month so getitgetit.

For Breastfeeding Week

Necklace: Anthropologie – gift card (similar) | Shirt: Gap – gift card (similar) | Skirt: thrifted – $3 | Heels: Vince Camuto – $76 (similar) | Total = $79
Wore this to church a couple weeks ago but I’ve worn this outfit plllenty of times before that. Loose untucked shirt for easy access to the boob? CHECK. Loose skirt because summer sucks? CHECK. It’s like once I became a mom, I’ve given up on anything form-fitting and that has zippers, which is like half of my closet. Pre-baby Elaine didn’t know what was up. I should’ve warned her.

It was World Breastfeeding Week last week and I’d like to share an experience that confirms the importance of breastfeeding awareness..

I breastfed Grey (WITH A COVER) during church the same day I wore this outfit and got the ultimate stare-down from a high-up-there church leader. Even though I want to believe he was staring because he was proud of me for doing something so simple yet controversial in the house of the Lord, I’m pretty sure his stares were those of disapproval.

In most of the Mormon church buildings, there’s a private room called the “Mother’s Lounge,” which is basically a closet with two gross chairs and maybe a counter for diaper-changing… and I hate it. I feel disconnected and isolated to have to go in a separate room to do something as simple as FEED my BABY.

#micdrop

For better posts about breastfeeding, you should read Lauren’s of Brimleys Take Flight and Stacey’s of Mrs. Sargent.

Personal Style Rules by Rebecca

Top: Zara (similar) | Pants: Dr. Jays (similar) | Wedges: Target | Tank: Anthropologie

This one broke a lot of personal rules for me. The first being to avoid black always and forever. And the second being to avoid animal print forever and always. Not because I have anything against them. It’s just one of those things that looks great on other people. No, I don’t feel liberated or empowered. I’ll still probably avoid black and animal print, but I have a number one rule that trumps all other rules. And that is, if you find a pair of fun pants for less than $15, you buy them. Period. The end. Over and out.

Christmas in July by Melissa

Skirt: J.Crew (similar) | Shirt: J.Crew (similar) | Sandals: DVF (similar) | Necklace: Ann Taylor | Sunnies: graduation gift (similar)
I really like my tartan-patterned skirt. It has pockets and elastic around the waist. Could you get more perfect? Comfort, practicality – I might actually convince my husband this is an essential item :). I love it so much, I have totally disregarded the fact that it’s screaming Christmas. Paired it with a little summer wear and viola! It’s totally summer, right? Besides, doesn’t everyone say they want Christmas in July?

Wearing this for one hour warrants an outfit post

Jacket: Modest Mob – $30 (similar) | Necklace: thrifted – $3 (similar) | Tank top: J.Crew c/o thredUP (similar) | Skirt: Forever 21 – $6 (similar) | Heels: Vince Camuto – $70 | Total = $109
I wore this to church this past Sunday for an hour because Grey was being the most well-behaved child and we wanted to go home early and cherish it forever. (Yeah……. NOPE.)

This tank is another item I received from thredUP. It’s super soft and it has BUTTONS, which cometofindout are the BEST for nursing. I gave all of my button-ups away because the ladies were too big, and I didn’t want to take anyone’s eyes out. You’re welcome, world.

So that same day, we had dinner with Meredith and her fam. I’m embarrassed it took like 3 months to meet her!! Her kiddos are so cute, especially that Everly. I knew Grey was big for his age but compared to Ev, he’s a monster baby…my monster baby, I mean. <3 And I’m pretty sure Chase and Bronson are BFFs now.

How Midi can you go

Necklace: giveaway win (similar) | Shirt: thrifted Target – $3 | Skirt: vintage c/o thredUP (similar) | Heels: thrifted Nine West – $3 (similar) | Total = $6
This midi skirt is my third item from thredUP! (If you didn’t know, you can get $10 off your first purchase through this link.) My first perfect-midi-length skirt. I have a floral one that hit at a weird part on my calves that made my already big calves look very…attractive. So I hemmed it. THIS, however, doesn’t require any alterations because it’s PERFECT and makes my ankles look so sexy. You can’t deny.
Has anyone else had trouble finding the perfect midi skirt? Or is it just me and my big legs? (and sexy ankles.)

One gray dress, Two ways

This gray sweater dress is my second item from thredUP! I mean, what is better than a sweater dress in 100° weather! Because I’m a genius. I can’t wait til the temps get cooler so I can wear it with leggings and boots.. For now, I’ll sweat my way through each wear because I love it so much…which is why I wore it twice in a row! Here’s how I styled a gray sweater dress for summer weather..

Dress: Michael Kors c/o thredUP (similar) | Flowerc/o Hot Magnets | Belt: thrifted – $1 (similar) | Sandals: Walmart – $10 (similar) | Total = $11
During the high temps, I like to keep my outfits super simple and fuss-free. Like instead of jewelry, I opted for a skinny belt with a magnetic flower, which may not have been a good idea when you’re carrying a 23-pound weight on your hip and he keeps plucking at it. Babies… amirite?
Dress: Michael Kors c/o thredUP (similar) | Bootsc/o Wanted Shoes
This is my run-out-the-door-just-hurry-up-and-wear-something outfit. Bun, dress, boots – can’t get simpler and quicker than that!
Also, any new pose requests? My pose shuffle is stuck.

Helping the earth kind of

Top: Sherry Taylor c/o thredUP (similar) | Necklace: JCPenney – gift card via giveaway win (similar) | Shorts: thrifted Forever 21 – $5 (similar) | Shoes: Target – gift (similar) | Total = $5
I received a box of clothes from thredUP last week and can’t wait to show you guys! They have trendy, practically new clothes for a fraction of the retail price. Plus, you can sell your clothes and get credit back. Being the cheapskate I am, I love me some secondhand clothes. I like to feel I’m helping the earth…one clothing at a time.
And maybe I convinced Chase that we needed to go to the mall so I could wear my “new” shirt because it’s a million degrees outside, and then he ended up trying on and buying clothes (not me for once) so win-win!
Big cheeses to make my boy smile!! // Shirt shopping is rough for a tall, handsome drink of water.
The fam and I are headed up north to the Redwoods to escape the heat for 4th of July!! I’m so excited. I’ve never seen the big trees and it’ll be nice to be away from the city and my laptop for a little. Although I can’t cut myself off entirely from technology… I’m bringing my tablet and phone. WHAT.
Stay cool, ‘Murica. I’ll be back..

Graduation Dress Tips by Melissa

Dress: Anthropologie | Sandals: DVF (similar) | Sunnies: gift (similar)

In May I finally donned a cap and gown and officially graduated! Yay! For all those graduating, here is my personal advice on how to dress under that cap and gown:

  1. Where something light. A cap and gown are heavy and hot, especially if your graduation ceremony is outside.
  2. Pockets are necessary. Never underestimate the power of pockets. You can’t carry a purse up on stage, but you need a phone to find your family afterward. Solution: Have a pocket available. Also, from past experience, it isn’t a bad idea to have a light snack hiding in one of your pockets. I like fishy crackers.
  3. Flat shoes. I wore heels at my last graduation and my feet HURT by the end of the day. This time around I was all over my flat sandals – made my life so much easier.
  4. Jewelry. I personally forgo almost all jewelry on graduation day. I love replacing it with the leis – candy or flower.
  5. Finally, hair. I personally wear it down so I can run my fingers through it when I take off my cap. But, always have bobby pins in one of those pockets – your cap can always use a little extra hold.

Congrats to all of you who graduated/are graduating this year!


Hats & Hair by Melissa

Hat: Marshalls (similar) | Top: J.Crew | Skirt: Madewell (similar) | ShoesTarget
I am very excited that I finally found a hair cut that will work with hats! Seriously, my hair is thick and curly (AKA frizzy). Short hair just poofed out under hats, and I have such a long face I needed something to give the illusion of less face – welcome bangs! It has taken all my woman-power to not cut my hair off…so far I am happy I haven’t. Let’s see if this lasts through the summer.. Anyone else find their perfect hair cut?


Iffy by Melissa

Button-up: Madewell (similar) | T-shirt: Shade Clothing | Skirt: Madewell (similar) | Shoes: J.Crew (very similar!)
To be honest, I am not quite sure what I was thinking here. Was it “How many patterns can I fit in ONE outfit?” or “I am going to pick blindly from the closet and just put it on.” Maybe it was “I am going to be wearing camo for the next month – get in all other patterns while you still can.” Whatever it was, I still thought it was pretty fantastic till about half way through the day. Then it was more like, “What am I wearing?!?” Anyone else feel iffy about their outfit choices as the day ends?

How To Make a Colorblock Dress from T-Shirts by Kristina

Sometimes a favorite piece is just too comfortable to throw away. I didn’t want to get rid of my perfect fit tee from the GAP so I decided to up-cycle three extra large men’s polo shirts from Goodwill to create a dress inspired by this colorblock dress.
Chic Girl’s Tip: Anytime you plan to up-cycle jersey knit pieces, wash and dry the clothes before cutting them for your projects. For this project, I used the largest shirt as the bottom layer and smallest for the top to make sure the shape of the skirt portion was a-line.
More color block maxi dresses:

Modest Fashion Book Giveaway

I’ve mentioned a couple¹ times² on the blog about a research project based in London of the intertwining of faith and fashion today, specifically modesty. I met with Professor Reina Lewis a couple years ago in L.A. to talk about this. She’s been working on it this whole time and was able to publish a book as a result! She sent me two copies, one for me and one for a lucky reader! I haven’t read it yet – I have a million books on my list right now so it’s currently sitting on my nightstand, but it’s most definitely next on my reading list.

See the deets on Amazon

Confession: I totally looked myself up in the index…and I’m mentioned twice!!! I’m going places, you guys. Nina from alltumbledown is in there too! She wrote a great guest post about Judaism and Modesty last year that you should check out to refresh your memory.

Okok, no more reading. Enter below in the rafflecopter thingamajig to win your copy. Yes, internationals included! May the randomest person win.

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On Bikinis and Modesty

The video above has been circulating the web for a few weeks now about swimsuits, specifically bikinis, and modesty. There have been several responses to this but three that I found particularly poignant and paralleled my own thoughts about this issue:

  1. Men, Sex, and Modesty – By Common Consent
  2. Whosoever Looketh On A Woman… – To Every One That Believeth
  3. What I Plan to Teach My Children About Bikinis – katilda.com

Bikinis and modesty is a touchy subject and one that I’ve tiptoed around here because while I am a self-proclaimed modest fashion blogger, I do have one. I personally don’t see an issue with it. I don’t feel I have the power to tell someone what is modest and what isn’t, just what I believe is modest for me.

What was your reaction to this video? What’s your personal stance on bikinis and modesty? I’d love to know your thoughts! Feel free to leave a link if you’ve blogged about it.

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Faith and Fashion

MONDAY, JUNE 03, 2013

A few months ago in London, there was a panel for Faith & Fashion that talked about the relationship between religion and fashion and how they have intertwined for women of different faiths as well as those secular.

I met with Professor Reina Lewis a couple of years ago to talk about this project. I thought it was so interesting as I (as well as many of you) fit into this study. If any of you are interested in listening to the podcast, you can find it and more information here.

Now let me turn the question over to you… How does your faith fit into your fashion?

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Judaism and Modesty 101 by Nina

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 12, 2012

Hi there, Clothed Much readers! I’m excited to share some thoughts about modesty in Judaism on a blog that has been so monumental in establishing a presence for women of all faiths working within modesty guidelines. I’m Nina, and I blog over at alltumbledown: a modest attempt at style, where I document my daily style choices as an Orthodox Jew. I’m a second-year history PhD student married to a medical resident, living in the lovely suburbs of Philadelphia and expecting our first child this winter. In addition to brightly colored pencil skirts, glittery nails, and sweater tights, I’m a big fan of puppies, stovetop popcorn, and the printing press.

What are the sources for Jewish modesty guidelines? In the Bible, Moses is described as anav mi’kol adam, or “humbler than any other man” (Numbers 12:3), and Micah 6:8 encourages us to hazneia lekhet im Hashem elokecha, or to “walk humbly with [our] God.” These injunctions are interpreted in the canon of Jewish law in two ways:  the first, a sense of humility in action, speech, and thought; and second, a more formulaic approach:  guidelines for modest dress. Centuries of Jewish legal scholarship and the practices of Jewish communities since Biblical times inform what religious Jews wear today.

So what do religious Jews wear? As in every religious group, various communities have interpreted the modest clothing requirements in varied ways. For a Conservative Jew who believes in the divine origin of the Jewish law but that each generation has the power to reinterpret as needed, modesty may take form as a set of basic guidelines:  no cleavage, nothing too tight, dressing with a sense of propriety. Within the spectrum of Orthodox Judaism, guidelines tend to be quite a bit stricter and focus on specific items of clothing that can or cannot be worn, rather than dressing with a basic sense of modesty.

Orthodox Jewish women on the whole follow these basic standards:  skirts to the knee, sleeves to the elbow, tops to the collarbone, and headcoverings once married. That said, within Orthodoxy you will find great variation on how these standards are interpreted, as well as those who consider themselves Orthodox but do not follow the modesty guidelines in a strict fashion. In ultra-Orthodox and Hasidic communities the laws are seen as minimum standards, and actual practice is far stricter. These women are often found in sleeves to the wrist, skirts to mid-calf, stockings, collars that meet the neck, and complete headcoverings without a single strand of hair showing. Often, a sense of formality in dress accompanies these strict interpretations:  instead of jean skirts or graphic tees, women don structured skirt suits for daily wear. In my religious community, Modern Orthodoxy, there is far greater variation in dress, and you are more likely to see the minimum standards reflected in daily style.

What are your personal standards, and how have they shifted over time? I have a pretty progressive view (that is, for an Orthodox Jew) of Judaism, and you will see that reflected in my clothing choices. I wear loose pants, skirts to the knee, sleeves to the elbow, and shirts at about collarbone level. I am also careful to ensure my style doesn’t reflect a notion called naval be’reshut haTorah, or a scoundrel who obeys the letter of the law — it is of course possible to follow the laws perfectly while looking completely inappropriate, and I am cognizant of this when I dress myself. My modesty journey has certainly led me to unexpected places:  putting on a pair of pants for the first time in several years, for example, or deciding after 3 years of marriage that headcovering was not for me. In many ways, “modesty” blogging has allowed me to explore my own conflicting feelings on modesty, and to flesh out the tension between feeling dedicated to tradition and Jewish law and somewhat resentful of the ways in which modesty guidelines restrict and enforce decidedly non-contemporary gendered behavior.

Working within (or around) modesty restrictions makes daily acts like getting dressed an ideological statement, which can be a bit tiring. I have found that cultivating a style reflective of my interests and personality, rather than focused narrowly on what I can/can’t wear, has been freeing. Saturated colors, funky patterns, and creative accessories make getting dressed a pleasure. As I say on my blog, I’m on a mission:  to make restrictions the last thing people notice when I walk down the street. I’d much rather you see an inventive use of contrasting colors or textural elements than the fact that I’m the only one wearing long sleeves in August.

Comments? Questions? Visit me at alltumbledown or shoot me an email. I’d love to hear from you!

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Shop Modest Clothes All in One Place!

WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 19, 2012

I wanted to let you guys know of a new modest fashion site I recently found. It’s called Shop Dear Prudence. It’s your one-stop modest fashion shopping site. They’ve searched the web to bring modest and stylish clothes for women from your favorite online stores to the one-of-a-kind boutiques into one place. They’ve curated clothes for teens, college students, moms, plus-size, petite… whatever your budget, whatever your size, whatever your modest guidelines are.

Below are some of my favorite picks…

So, who are they? Behind Shop Dear Prudence are two friends, Melissa and Stephanie. I actually met Melissa a couple times. She goes to my church building! I talked with her this past Sunday and she’s the sweetest. They both work full time so this site is their second job. Something I think we bloggers can all relate to..

I’m loving this rise of modesty in the fashion and retail world lately…more importantly, that it’s becoming more accessible to the everyday consumer. What are your thoughts? Is this good for the modest fashion community? What other sites would you like to see to promote modesty?

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This is a “Modest” Blog

TUESDAY, APRIL 24, 2012

image via CEEBEE

I recently came across this blog post about modest fashion blogs and the confusion behind the term “modesty.” There have been several posts like this where the author had difficulty differentiating between modesty as an attitude of humility and modesty as a code of dress. I’ve hardly responded to these posts mostly because I am lazy but I feel like I should to CM readers who may have wondered the same thing about me and my blog.

Like I mentioned previously, I feel there are various definitions of modesty depending on the dictionary; the individual and their religious, cultural, ethnic, familial background; the era; etc. I don’t understand why all those definitions need to be applied to define a modest fashion blog.

I wonder if it would be easier for everyone if I had initially called my blog “Clothed Much | a fashion blog that doesn’t show shoulders, midriff, chest, back, and covers to the knees.” It’s kinda catchy. But, in all seriousness, there is a reason I didn’t call it “Clothed Much | a Mormon modest fashion blog.” Yes, religion plays a part for me but I didn’t want it to be the focus because the reason behind modest dress differs from person to person.

When I use the term modesty on my blog, I refer to the code of dress — MY code of dress, to be exact. Person A may think knee-length skirts are immodest, while person B may think short-shorts are modest AND THAT IS OKAY. We are all different; we all have different perceptions of what is acceptable and what isn’t today. That’s what makes the world beautiful. I don’t understand why we have to focus on these differences and think just because someone has stricter guidelines in life, perhaps dictated by religion or something else, it means they think they are better than everyone else. I…just don’t get it.

The point of my blog wasn’t to be all HEY LOOK AT ME I’M MODEST AND YOU’RE NOT AND I MAKE IT LOOK SO GOOD. Maybe that’s what some people got out of it, but to me it was more HEY LOOK AT ME I CAN BE MODEST AND FRUGAL AND LOOK GOOD BECAUSE I DIDN’T KNOW HOW BEFORE. And I’m still learning.

Yes, I’m hurt that people have called me hypocritical for having a modest fashion blog, but does that mean it’s the end of Clothed Much? Probably……not. BRB.

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How to Wear Modest Skirts (Without Looking Frumpy) by Kristine

MONDAY, FEBRUARY 13, 2012

Living in Japan, I was always in awe of everybody’s fashion choices. Everyone looked so kawaii (cute) in their knit sweaters layered over button up shirts with shorts, tights, and heeled boots. I have envied Japanese fashion since I was in junior high school, and seeing it in real life was an absolute dream.

Just one problem:  the fashionable Japanese girls that I admired were very keen on showing A LOT of leg. We’re talking short-shorts and mini-skirts galore. And it looked great on them. Somehow, they found a way to balance out the amount of skin they were showing by covering up their top half. (I really saw zero cleavage while I was in Japan, which I very much appreciated.) However, because I was surrounded by these amazingly stylish, beautiful, leggy women, and because I have very high modesty standards when it comes to showing skin, every now and then I would find myself feeling so, so frumpy.  I’d look at myself in my seemingly matronly knee-length skirts in the mirror and just frown.

But then I thought, just because I don’t show a lot of skin, doesn’t mean my body doesn’t look good. Showing skin and being leggy does not automatically equal womanly. Sure, I may not ever be sexy…but I don’t want to be seen like that anyway.

Over the years, I have figured out ways to wear modest skirts without looking frumpy. These ways work for me, but I’d love to hear your tips in the comments as well!

H&M shirt (similar); J.Crew belt (similar); vintage skirt (similar);

Forever 21 shoes (similar)

  1. Wear heels.

If you’re petite like me (I’m 5’2”.), this is definitely a must. Lengthening your legs is a must to fight the frump, especially when wearing skirts! I’m talking 2” heels or higher. I can’t tell you how I feel when I put on heels after dressing up for the day:  I finally feel complete.

J.Crew cardigan (similar); J.Crew Factory necklace;

Urban Outfitters top; Crossover skirt from Japan

  1. Wear skirts at the waist, not the hip.

Wearing skirts at the waist definitely elongates your bottom half, which is what you want! I also feel as though it creates a very 1950s silhouette, which is very, very feminine. I have some skirts that actually fall at my hip naturally, but I belt them at my waist so they’ll stay up. Just a trick of the trade 😉

Forever 21 hat (similar); Forever 21 top (similar);

Uniqlo skirt; We Love Colors tights; c/o Blowfish

shoes

  1. Pay attention to where the hemline falls.Supposedly, just above the knee is the ideal length for making your legs appear longer. I don’t necessarily follow this rule, but it’s good to keep in mind. For me, I usually wear skirtssomewherearound the knee area.

What tips have you got to wear modest skirts without looking frumpy?

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Maysaa

TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 07, 2012

Along with Seyma’s guest post yesterday, the Thread Ethic girls also had a post dedicated to hijab fashion, which introduced me to the blog Style Covered, which introduced me to Hana’s clothing line Maysaa. (WHEW, got all that?) I am loving her wonderfully modest clothes and I had to share some of my favorites.

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Recognizing My Worth by Megan

TUESDAY, DECEMBER 13, 2011

Hello! If you don’t remember me from my first post, my name is Megan and I blog over here. I’m so excited to be guest posting about my beliefs in being modest.

When I was in high school, dressing modestly was honestly not hard for me. I was confident in myself and knew who I was. I didn’t question the teachings from my parents and church leaders to stay modest and clean. In fact, I loved developing my own style and standing out of the crowd! I never even so much as felt tempted to wear a two-piece to the pool. It just wasn’t for me and I knew it.

Jump ahead about four years and my feelings changed pretty dramatically. I started feeling obligation and frustration with finding modest clothes. I would see all these cute girls with short skirts and sleeveless dresses and feel incredibly frumpy. I felt like I just had layers and layers of bulky clothes keeping me back from being able to be one of the fashionable.

Add those frustrations to a pregnancy and all of the body changes that come with it and I was miserable. I felt like this modesty thing really started to cramp my style.

I remember venting to my husband about it one day when he helped put things in perspective for me. He told me that being modest wasn’t just about tons of layering. It is more about an outward expression of my own self-confidence and respect. And when I truly understood my own self-worth, taking care of my body would just come naturally.

I took my husband’s counsel to heart and tried to change my attitude. I started enjoying finding cute, modest clothes and styling them just right. I regained my passion for quirky and eclectic designs. And more importantly, I learned to more fully love myself.

Did/do you see modesty as an obligation? How do you accept it in your own life?

32 COMMENTS •    GUEST BLOGGER MEGAN MODESTY

BYU-Idaho bans skinny jeans

WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 07, 2011

I’ve worn skinny jeans many a time on Clothed Much.

According to The Student Review, an independent paper written by Brigham Young University students, BYU-Idaho’s Testing Center recently put up a sign prohibiting anyone wearing skinny jeans to be admitted for both men and women. Advancement Vice President Henry J. Eyring was asked whether skinny jeans are in violation of the university’s honor code, which states that clothing should not be form-fitting. “It’s useful for us to realize that fashions will come and go,” Eyring answered. “There will always be some tempting new style.”

Gawker was able to get a statement from Eyring and his colleague Kevin Miyasaki. Miyasaki stated the following in an email correspondence with the author:
We have not identified “skinny jeans” as a specific violation of the dress and grooming standard. We are aware of the incident and the Student Honor Office is working with the Testing Center to address the issue.The wording in the BYU-Idaho dress and grooming standard regarding formfitting clothing is as follows: “Clothing is inappropriate when it is sleeveless, strapless, backless, or revealing. It should not have slits above the knee or be formfitting.” The foundation of this standard comes from “For the Strength of Youth” which states, “Immodest clothing includes short shorts and skirts, tight clothing, shirts that do not cover the stomach, and other revealing attire. Young women should wear clothing that covers the shoulder and avoid clothing that is low-cut in the front or the back or revealing in any other manner.” The Testing Center has not made any new standard, nor has there been a ban of a particular piece of clothing. The effort of the Testing Center as well as with other employees and students is to encourage others in their commitment to comply with the Honor Code.I had been a student at BYU-I for three years and had to follow a few of its stricter dress codes such as no flip flops, no overalls (psh, easy), no shorts, no leggings, and no holey jeans. It wasn’t as bad as you’d think. I did break the holey jeans rule a few times but that’s because I had come from working at American Eagle where they’re all about holey jeans and that’s all I had.

I’ve been thinking about this issue for a while now. Are skinny jeans immodest? I think it depends on who you ask, how tight they are, and how much of you we’re seeing.

I personally like skinny jeans and don’t see myself not wearing them anytime soon. I’ve seen plenty of Mormon girls who wear skinny jeans tastefully. I’ve also seen plenty of Mormon girls who wear them not so tastefully. That can also be said about a lot of other clothing items and fashion trends.

But doesn’t this fall under the Mormon clothing standard of not wearing form-fitting clothing? There are many other clothing items that Mormon women wear that could fall under this category such as fitted tops, most flared jeans (the thigh and butt area), and a lot of dresses. This may be one of the cases where since everyone else is doing it, it must be okay. Also, personal definitions of form-fitting clothing can vary from person to person; similarly with modesty.

What do you think? Was the BYU-I Testing Center in the right for banning skinny jeans? Are skinny jeans immodest?

Side note:  I’ve also heard of rumors that BYU-I was trying to ban messenger bags on girls because it accentuated the woman’s chest when worn across the body. Can anyone confirm/disclaim that?



UPDATE 9:44 AM PST:  BYU-I made the following announcement on their Facebook page:
Wondering if skinny jeans are allowed on campus? They are. BYU-Idaho’s longstanding dress & grooming standards promote principles of modesty and restrict formfitting clothing, but skinny jeans are not singled out or prohibited. In addition, the Testing Center issue reported in Scroll has been corrected and is no longer in force.

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Be Confident In Your Modesty by Emily

THURSDAY, DECEMBER 01, 2011

Hi! This is Emily from The Lovely Things. I am fairly new to the blogging scene. My blog is all about my life and my evolving style.

Something I’ve been thinking about lately is confidence. It seems like every girl has days when she thinks, “Ugh, I wish I could wear what other girls get to wear.” or “Nothing looks cute when you are modest.” Even though we have these thoughts, we know they could not be more untrue. It is all about confidence in your modesty. Confidence is an essential component to being able to rock an outfit. Confidence is not about how the outfit would look on someone else, where you purchased the items, or what people think about you. Confidence is about how you feel, and when you are confident, it shows. You do not need to start practicing your model strut in order to pull off your outfits. Clothes are about expressing your creative side and letting your personality shine.

Here are some tips to becoming more confident in your style:

Pick staple items that you are in love with.

If you do not have that “I will die if I don’t buy this!” feeling then you will not have a glow about you when you wear it.

Only wear an outfit if you feel good about it. 

When you feel good about your outfit, you find that you end up giving yourself compliments instead of put-downs, which builds up your confidence.

If you feel like your skirt just may be too short, then skip it. No one likes to play the “pulling it down all day” game.

Make things interesting.

Mix colors and patterns and experiment with layering. You will find that making bold steps in your style slowly makes you more confident about your abilities to put together interesting outfits. Who do you notice more? The girl wearing the usual jeans, tee, and cardigan or the girl who is thinking outside the box? You do not need to see her and think, “Oh, I wish I could be like her.” You can exude that confidence just as well as she can.

Forget about what other people think.

Your style is about you. An outfit on a confident person is infinitely more appealing than on someone who is looking for approval.

Remember that modesty can be sexy.

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Modest Clothing Stores, you’re getting warmer..

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 09, 2011

Warning:  This post is all MY opinion….and advanced apologies if my sarcasm is too great.

I have a prejudice when it comes to Utah’s take on modest fashion:  over-the-top frills and ruffles, fabric flowers, tacky fabrics, gem-encrusted flared denim, beehive blonde hair, spider mascara, and the over-use of undertees. I’m determined that amidst this fashion faux pas epidemic there IS some fashion sense somewhere in Utah!!! With the upsurge of Mormon modest fashion bloggers, I’m going to assume you guys know at least some of us have a style unmediated by the Mormon capital and its residents. (Me.)

Despite what I consider a faux pas, Utah modest clothing stores (and their fashion) are on the rise. Some better than others. Since this is a modest fashion blog, I’m going to review and showcase some of the best modest clothes from these stores. Please note:  I’m not getting paid for this. I wish. My opinions are free and you can’t set a price on that. (Yes, you can. Contact me for more info.)

The first store I want to review is modbod. Not a fan of the store name, not a fan of the site, not a fan of the pictures, not a fan of the models. Everything about it screams “catalog” and “Utah.” ….except this Mandarin top. Maybe the little ounce of fashion in me has been dulled by the rest of the mediocre items so this top stuck out to me like a diamond in the rough. Perhaps it is the styling? (Love everything except the stilettos.) Either way, I applaud modbod for providing ONE good item. What do you think (about this product and my new mission)? Let’s discuss.

Mandarin top, $32

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In the News: Modest Dressing

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 15, 2011

These days modesty seems to be more and more recognized in the fashion world — not just in the fashion blogging world but in the retail sector as well. Professor Reina Lewis sought to investigate this further with a research project titled “Modest Dressing: faith-based fashion and internet retail.” Throughout the project, she had three objectives:

  1. To discover if the expansion and diversification through e-commerce of clothes for modest dressing is creating a new retail and style category of ‘modest fashion’ that has the potential to transcend specific religions and reach out to consumers across faith groups.
  2. To explore the extent to which ‘modest fashion’ is beginning to be recognisable as a form of dressing adopted by women from different faith communities.
  3. To evaluate the social and personal impact of modest fashion for the future development of interfaith dialogue and religious/secular community relations.

I had the pleasure of meeting with her last November and it was so great to discuss modesty on an academic level when for me I live it everyday without really thinking twice about it. If you’re interested in reading about the project’s main research findings, read their PDF summary here. You can also listen to the papers from the project’s symposium, Mediating Modesty.

I’d love to know what you all think about this subject, whether you hold the belief to dress modestly or not.

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Making Modesty Your Own by Heather

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 13, 2011

Hello you lovely Clothed Much readers! I’m Heather from Life of a Passeri, and I am absolutely thrilled to be here!

So I’ve been waiting for some great wave of inspiration to wash over me and tell me what to say to rock your modest fashion world. I mean have you seen Elaine? ‘Cause if you didn’t know, she’s kind of a big deal. So here’s what I came up with:

I like feeling pretty.

Earth shattering right?

When I feel like myself, like I own my style, I feel pretty. There was a time though, that I didn’t feel like I could really look fashionable or “pretty” in modest clothes. I felt like what I wore and what was “in style” were completely irreconcilable.

I didn’t know how to own my style. I was so focused on how modesty prevented me from fitting in, I was missing the point:  my clothes should be less about others and more about me; how they make me feel, or represent me as a person. I should never think I have to fit into someone else’s mold.

I know, right?! How great is that?

So now, older and wiser, and sometimes to my husband’s distress, I’ve learned how to dress for myself and own my modest style. My “pretty” like my style is how I define it.

So here some of my tips on how to dress for yourself and spice up modest style to make it your own!

1. Find accents and accessories that are completely and uniquely you. Such as Steve, the Argentine fish purse:

2. Mix pieces you love that make you feel confident with ones you find exciting or a little outside your comfort zone. Like my favorite silk dress, paired with and unexpected top.

3. Play up your natural assets. I’ve embraced my dramatic frizz and curls by pairing them with big accessories and electric colors.

  1. Don’t be afraid to pair something fancy with something not…fancy.Like classic pleats & stripes with a home-made necklace.

Hope you found these tips helpful! Feel free to come on over for more thoughts on how to feel pretty on your own terms. –Heather

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Modest Can Be Marvelous! by Dani

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 08, 2011

Hi there Clothed Much readers! I’m Dani from The Daily Dani, and I’m so excited to be here talking modest style with you all!

Let me tell you, from the time I realized how important fashion and styling is to me, it seems that I also realized how important modesty is as well. I’m not sure I really picked up on this fact, though, until I got into the blogging world early this year, and compared (and often contrasted!) my style with those of the lovely ladies in the fashion blogosphere! I’ll admit, in the past (and maybe even sometimes now, on lazier days), I’ve been known to dress a bit on the “frumpy” side – in oversize tops or potato sack-esque shapeless shifts – in order to stay humble or reserved. However, with just a bit more effort, modesty can be absolutely marvelous! Here are 3 tips I have for staying fashionable, fun, and radiant while still maintaining modesty!
1. When in doubt, CINCH IT!

Whether you use a belt, ribbon, bow, or attached tie, modesty does not have to equal shapeless! Appropriately show the person you are proud to be by showing off your waist! Mixing longer sleeves and hemlines with a cinched waist will make you feel your best!

  1. Don’t forget to ACCESSORIZE!

I’m talking scarves, bags, belts, bangles, and more! I never leave the house without my large menswear-style watch, a ring or 2, and my sunglasses! Accessories are a great way to draw attention to your style without being too aggressive. Cute pins, flowers, bows, and personal details let you express yourself in a fun and charming way!

  1. Play up your PRINTS!

Punch up modest tailoring and silhouettes with great prints! Stripes, florals, and ikats OH MY! Mixing up fun prints and patterns is a way to ensure that you’ll never be bored with your look! Whether you’re rocking 1 print at a time or 5, you’ll be sure to gain compliments for your cute, individualistic style!

Thanks for having me, Clothed Much! Stop by The Daily Dani to let me know how you punch up your modest style, and see how I continue to evolve mine!

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Being Fashionably Modest on a Modest Budget by Megan

TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 06, 2011

Hello “Clothed Much” readers! My name is Megan Robinson and I blog over at “And here’s to you, Mrs. Robinson” where I talk about my life as a young wife, mother and {newly graduated} student. When Elaine asked me to guest post I {almost peed my pants}. That may be an exaggeration but it’s really not. I don’t think I’m even close to being as cute and fashionable as Elaine. But one thing I think I am good at is being totally and extremely cheap in my fashion purchases.

I’m a total cheapskate. As in, I refuse to pay full price and/or more than $20 on an item. I can probably count on one hand the times I paid over $20 for things. And they were only for special circumstances like weddings, reunions or “I just had a baby, aren’t I worth it to get a new pair of shoes?!” Two arguments I used for real.

But in all seriousness, trying to be cute and in style when you are on a tight poor-college-student-and-have-a-baby-to-feed budget can be difficult. So I thought I’d share my tips on how I {try} to dress cute without breaking the bank.

  1. Thrift stores are your friends.

You would be amazed at what goods people freal [that’s for real] give away. All of my favorite pieces were found at thrift stores. My tip is to take your time, avoid weekend rushes, and don’t expect too much on one trip. Sometimes it takes multiple trips to find lots of good things. Patience is a virtue! (one I don’t have but I still preach it)

I found this shirt at my local thrift store in the middle of the day when there was no one there. I was able to score 6 more pieces that day too! I’m wearing thrifted top ($5), Forever 21 jeans (sale, $8), Forever 21 belt (came with a skirt, $10), flower from Oli J Accessories (won in a giveaway), and Forever Young shoes ($20, for a wedding so special circumstance!)

  1. Turn hand-me-downs into hand-me-ups.

I don’t know if that made sense but the point is to not look down on hand-me-downs. I LOVE getting hand-me-downs. I know that sounds crazy and weird but I’m serious. First of all, IT’S FREE! And second of all, usually you are already {coveting} your sister’s/friend’s/neighbor’s look to begin with that I jump at the opportunity for them to pass along some of their gems. In fact, when I visit my sister or friends I make it a point to say, “Hey, do you wear [insert shirt/skirt] anymore? Can I have it? Is that weird to just ask you such a question?” By the way, it totally is weird but for free clothes I’m willing to go out on a limb.

This shirt is really comfortable and cute but was too big and kind of drowned me out sometimes. So by using a belt to cinch it and wearing skinny jeans with it, the outfit became more flattering. I’m wearing hand-me-down shirt (free), Gap jeans (sale, $20), thrifted shoes ($7), thrifted belt ($3), flower from Oli J Accessories (won in a giveaway), and turquoise ring from Sebastian Designs (gift).

  1. Reuse, Repurpose and Refashion.

Mixing and matching has been my biggest savior when I start getting bored with my clothes. If Elaine has taught us anything on her awesome blog it’s that we shouldn’t be afraid to mix patterns and colors to make a whole new outfit. You can also make your clothes last by repurposing or refashioning them when you start getting bored with the look (or if you find an awesome thrift store find that needs some extra umph). Accents and accessories do wonders to making your clothes look as good as new. [Some of my favorite refashions are thisthis, and this.]

 

This is one of my favorite mix and match outfits that I found when I started getting bored with always wearing this shirt with only jeans or this skirt with only solid colored shirts. With the different colors and patterns it may seem like the shirt and skirt would clash but I think it goes surprisingly well together. I’m wearing a thrifted MTV shirt ($5), Forever 21 skirt ($7), TJ Maxx shoes ($9), vintage earrings ($3), turquoise ring from boutique ($6)

  1. You would be surprised what you can get on sale/clearance!

Like I said earlier, I DO NOT like to spend full price on items. Unless they are already insanely cheap then that of course doesn’t even count (Forever 21, anyone?). Whenever I’m in a store, I go straight for the sales and clearance racks. If I can’t find anything on clearance that I like, then I leave empty handed. That sounds depressing maybe but it’s rather rare I leave empty handed. It has become fun for me to see some seriously awesome clothes on sale. And nothing makes my heart flutter more (besides my husband of course) when I see the price tag of $70 slashed down to $7 (Seriously happened one time. I was in heaven!). Again, you may have to have patience but when you come out with 7 items and only paid $25 for it all, you will be totally addicted!

I found this Shade shirt on sale for $7 and the Forever 21 shoes on sale for $7. Total steals! The red skirt is thrifted ($5) and the necklace is made by my sister, Rhi’s Designs (borrowed).

  1. Have fun with it!

In high school, my fashion sense was known around the school as “crazy” and “fun.” Once I dressed up my friend for a dance and this guy said, “Wow you look very ‘Megan-like’ tonight!” I decided to take that as a compliment… But either way being modest doesn’t mean you need to dress like a nun (or sister missionary?). Dress it up, be colorful, and make a statement. You can look just like the people in magazines with just a little work and creativity.

Another fun mix and match outfit. The tribal print of the shirt and the pinstripe pattern on the skirt make a fun combination. I’m wearing a thrifted shirt ($4), thrifted skirt ($6), Kohl’s shoes (sale, $10), Polish leather belt (used to live there, hand-me-down from sister), and Claire’s necklace (gift).

What are some ways you try and save??

Thanks for letting me share some of my ideas!

18 COMMENTS •    GUEST BLOGGER MEGAN MODESTY

Making Modesty Easy by Sarah

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 01, 2011

Well hello Clothed Much readers! I’m Sarah, from Wearing It On My Sleeves. I have to admit. Modesty has not always meant what it means to me now. There was definitely a time where I saw it as restricting. I thought, “really, really?? What can I wear then?” I remember trying to find a prom dress in high school and being about in tears over the fact that I just COULD NOT find a dress that had sleeves on it. I ended up spending my next three weekends altering a dress so that it would have sleeves, and to be honest, I could not stop thinking to myself that just wearing what everyone else was wearing would be SO MUCH EASIER!

When it really came down to it though I can see now that I just wanted to follow what everyone else was doing. All the girls were wearing spaghetti strap tanks, tiny little skirts and I felt a little left out not being able to dress like the other girls. How ridiculous was I? (I mean really though?!) Modesty is so much more important than any of the current fashion trends. It shows that your respect your body, think your beautiful without needing to show a bunch of skin and that your confident in who you are as a daughter of God.

Dressing modest can be a challenge at times but it’s so worth it. A few tricks that have helped me keep it modest are….

  1. If you have a dress that is just a bit too short you can use a second skirt as a “slip”. Not only will it keep you modest but it will add some volume and extra color to your outfit.2. If you have a low cut shirt or dress don’t be afraid to get a hold of a sewing machine and sew some lace or trim on the neckline to help you hide your ‘lil ladies.

    3. Layers are your best friend when you’re trying to keep it modest. If you have a spaghetti strap dress, grab a cardigan or a button up to go underneath or on top.If you have a low cut shirt wear an undershirt.

    Dressing modest can seem challenging at times but it gives us the chance to be all the more creative with what we wear and how we wear it! Have fun with your modest style and take pride in the fact that you’re modest!

30 COMMENTS •    GUEST BLOGGER MODESTY SARAH M STYLING

Mini-Skirt to Modest Skirt

FRIDAY, AUGUST 26, 2011

I have this great skirt that I absolutely love… this mini skirt from Forever 21. Doesn’t it look itty bitty on the model??

Ever since I saw Sydney in her striped skirt, I knew I had to get my hands on one! And I did…for $7.

BAM!! Scary face. And awkward puckering. And whoa! It’s longer than the one on the model?

What the what???

The skirt has a fold-over waistband which the model folded over and I didn’t. Modesty problem solved! I also got my skirt a couple sizes bigger so it would reach my knees but there was all that puckering business! I didn’t ask for this!!!! So I took matters into my domesticated hands.

I made my husband pin the sides to get it nice and tight. I figured since it was made of jersey it would just stretch out anyway. And it does…until I wash it and dry it again. It’s a sick cycle.

Lesson? A lot of stores out there have some tiny skirts. Check to see if they have a fold-over waistband but don’t fold it over! Get it in a couple sizes bigger and take the sides in to make it fit your hot bod. Now go rock the mini skirt with a bit more modesty!

See the original post here.

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Where to find modest formal dresses

WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 24, 2011

Got an email from Hannah last month (sorry it took so long, Hannah!!) about where to find affordable modest formal dresses for her high school formals:
It’s really hard for me to find a modest dress for my high school formals – I’m 16 and I’m 5’11”. Do you know of ways to either made a dress more appropriate (to cover shoulders) or good places to buy modest dresses that aren’t too expensive? At my age, I have a pretty limited budget, but I still want to keep my dress modest. Unfortunately, most dresses tend to be thin-strapped or strapless… so any insight would definitely help me on my dress hunt! Thank you so much!!Honestly, I have NO IDEA! I wore the same cheap dress to all my Homecoming dances and I only went to my Junior Prom and I bought a modestish dress from Utah and got the sleeves altered.

You could always go to Utah like I did and get a fashionable and on-trend modest dress but they’re a bit on the pricier side:

Beautifully Modest

LatterDay Bride &amp; Prom

A Dressy Occassion

For a cheaper option instead of buying a new dress is to go to your local thrift and consignment stores to see if there are any formal dresses that you can clean and fix up at home.

If your friends are getting tired of wearing the same dresses, have a dress swap!

If you find a dress you love but it is immodest, make it modest by also buying a bolero or shrug to cover your shoulders or a lengthen the hem with another skirt underneath.

For more information, check out ModestProm.com. It looks they really did their research when it comes to where and how to buy modest formal dresses. They even have links to modest dress and bolero patterns!

Now let’s hear your tips!! Share your advices and modest dress shopping experiences below.

18 COMMENTS •    MODESTY READER QUESTION

Can you guess whose tablet this really is??

Staples sent me the Samsung Galaxy Note 8″ tablet. And you bet I was allllllll over that. Chase bought a tablet a couple years ago but ended up selling it last year. I never used it much – just to read the Hunger Games like five times. But lately I’ve been seeing how babies have been interacting with technology these days like it’s another appendage. That could be a good or bad thing, but mamas.. let’s face it… It’s usually a good thing to get more than a minute to yourself, amirite? So I kindasorta regretted getting rid of ours too soon..
And then this happened.

He tooooootally loves it…especially the piano app. I mean, he is my son after all. He can play that for a whole five minutes until he clicks on an ad and almost buys a car.
But I’d say this is probably my favorite.. The pre-naptime movie. Netflix FTW! Soooo much better than hearing him crying it out for an hour. Although, he will cry to let me know the tablet fell over. And I’m like HELLO YOU HAVE HANDS.

Baby + electronics = messy and messier electronics. So I was so glad when Staples also sent me a Nordstrom gift card to spend on a tablet case! I was going to get a HOT! PINK! one, but I did my boys a favor and settled for this grey and hot! pink! Marc Jacobs one instead. SeewhatIdidthere? 🙂
Someone’s chubby little digits.. Mine. They’re my chubby little digits.

Outfit details here!
Thank you Staples!!

Photo Tips for Fashion Bloggers #3 by Emily

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Here’s a quick tip on getting flattering outfit posts/portraits when you’ve got to work with that pesky middle-of-the-day light. Making this one SUPER simple change when you’re shooting can make your photo much more clear, flattering, and all-around blog-worthy. Check out the before and after below where all I did was change one aspect of shooting the picture…

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All I did was simply change the angle of where the model and camera are facing. So simple! Angle #1 causes some pretty harsh under-eye shadows. You can see every wrinkle and fold in her clothing and it’s not the most flattering. Angle #2 gives her nice, even lighting all around her face and clothing that doesn’t distract from the picture. The downside of angle #2 is that the background and sky are inevitably a touch overexposed.

Keep in mind that achieving nice lighting of angle #2 requires some tweaking in Photoshop. Looking at the before and after below, you can see a little editing goes a long way.

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I did basic fixes in Camera Raw (though another program like Lightroom or Elements works just as well) to bump up the exposure and add lots of fill light. I made the dark areas darker with the “black” slider and added just a little bit of clarity to the image to keep in nice and sharp. Afterwards, I opened my image and photoshop and used the “dodge” tool around her face just to brighten it up a tiny bit more.

What other photography questions do you have?

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How To Make a Safety Pin Watch by Kristina

You can find these supplies at most craft stores, but for this project I wanted a watch face that would hide the attached elastic beneath the watch. I ordered this simple square one at Goody Beads online.
Because the elastic will stretch out once you put in on your arm, the length of the watch should be 1.5 times as long as the other watch. This will prevent the elastic cord from showing beneath the bead work.

When it’s nice to have a sister

Button-up shirt: from my sister | T-shirt: Shade Clothing maternity – $8 (similar) | Necklacec/o Max and Chloe | Jeans: skinnied Levi’s Curve -$70 | Shoes: Target – gift (similar) | Total = $87
My sister sometimes buys clothes from those online Asian stores where shipping is like $50 for one item. And then they suck you in by making you add 10 more things to your cart to lower shipping to a penny. You know what I’m talking about, right? Well, sometimes those clothes are hit-or-miss. And sometimes your sister gives you the misses. And you like them. Like this sleeveless button-up shirt. I like the added stripes and the chiffon back because summer and back sweat. (TMI?)

BONUS! My favorite family picture so far. *shakes fist*