I recently came across this blog post about modest fashion blogs and the confusion behind the term “modesty.” There have been several posts like this where the author had difficulty differentiating between modesty as an attitude of humility and modesty as a code of dress. I’ve hardly responded to these posts mostly because I am lazy but I feel like I should to CM readers who may have wondered the same thing about me and my blog.
Like I mentioned previously, I feel there are various definitions of modesty depending on the dictionary; the individual and their religious, cultural, ethnic, familial background; the era; etc. I don’t understand why all those definitions need to be applied to define a modest fashion blog.
I wonder if it would be easier for everyone if I had initially called my blog “Clothed Much | a fashion blog that doesn’t show shoulders, midriff, chest, back, and covers to the knees.” It’s kinda catchy. But, in all seriousness, there is a reason I didn’t call it “Clothed Much | a Mormon modest fashion blog.” Yes, religion plays a part for me but I didn’t want it to be the focus because the reason behind modest dress differs from person to person.
When I use the term modesty on my blog, I refer to the code of dress — MY code of dress, to be exact. Person A may think knee-length skirts are immodest, while person B may think short-shorts are modest AND THAT IS OKAY. We are all different; we all have different perceptions of what is acceptable and what isn’t today. That’s what makes the world beautiful. I don’t understand why we have to focus on these differences and think just because someone has stricter guidelines in life, perhaps dictated by religion or something else, it means they think they are better than everyone else. I…just don’t get it.
The point of my blog wasn’t to be all HEY LOOK AT ME I’M MODEST AND YOU’RE NOT AND I MAKE IT LOOK SO GOOD. Maybe that’s what some people got out of it, but to me it was more HEY LOOK AT ME I CAN BE MODEST AND FRUGAL AND LOOK GOOD BECAUSE I DIDN’T KNOW HOW BEFORE. And I’m still learning.
Yes, I’m hurt that people have called me hypocritical for having a modest fashion blog, but does that mean it’s the end of Clothed Much? Probably……not. BRB.