This is a “Modest” Blog

I recently came across this blog post about modest fashion blogs and the confusion behind the term “modesty.” There have been several posts like this where the author had difficulty differentiating between modesty as an attitude of humility and modesty as a code of dress. I’ve hardly responded to these posts mostly because I am lazy but I feel like I should to CM readers who may have wondered the same thing about me and my blog.

Like I mentioned previously, I feel there are various definitions of modesty depending on the dictionary; the individual and their religious, cultural, ethnic, familial background; the era; etc. I don’t understand why all those definitions need to be applied to define a modest fashion blog.

I wonder if it would be easier for everyone if I had initially called my blog “Clothed Much | a fashion blog that doesn’t show shoulders, midriff, chest, back, and covers to the knees.” It’s kinda catchy. But, in all seriousness, there is a reason I didn’t call it “Clothed Much | a Mormon modest fashion blog.” Yes, religion plays a part for me but I didn’t want it to be the focus because the reason behind modest dress differs from person to person.

When I use the term modesty on my blog, I refer to the code of dress — MY code of dress, to be exact. Person A may think knee-length skirts are immodest, while person B may think short-shorts are modest AND THAT IS OKAY. We are all different; we all have different perceptions of what is acceptable and what isn’t today. That’s what makes the world beautiful. I don’t understand why we have to focus on these differences and think just because someone has stricter guidelines in life, perhaps dictated by religion or something else, it means they think they are better than everyone else. I…just don’t get it.

The point of my blog wasn’t to be all HEY LOOK AT ME I’M MODEST AND YOU’RE NOT AND I MAKE IT LOOK SO GOOD. Maybe that’s what some people got out of it, but to me it was more HEY LOOK AT ME I CAN BE MODEST AND FRUGAL AND LOOK GOOD BECAUSE I DIDN’T KNOW HOW BEFORE. And I’m still learning.

Yes, I’m hurt that people have called me hypocritical for having a modest fashion blog, but does that mean it’s the end of Clothed Much? Probably……not. BRB.

How to Wear Modest Skirts (Without Looking Frumpy) by Kristine

Living in Japan, I was always in awe of everybody’s fashion choices. Everyone looked so kawaii (cute) in their knit sweaters layered over button up shirts with shorts, tights, and heeled boots. I have envied Japanese fashion since I was in junior high school, and seeing it in real life was an absolute dream.

Just one problem:  the fashionable Japanese girls that I admired were very keen on showing A LOT of leg. We’re talking short-shorts and mini-skirts galore. And it looked great on them. Somehow, they found a way to balance out the amount of skin they were showing by covering up their top half. (I really saw zero cleavage while I was in Japan, which I very much appreciated.) However, because I was surrounded by these amazingly stylish, beautiful, leggy women, and because I have very high modesty standards when it comes to showing skin, every now and then I would find myself feeling so, so frumpy.  I’d look at myself in my seemingly matronly knee-length skirts in the mirror and just frown.

But then I thought, just because I don’t show a lot of skin, doesn’t mean my body doesn’t look good. Showing skin and being leggy does not automatically equal womanly. Sure, I may not ever be sexy…but I don’t want to be seen like that anyway.

Over the years, I have figured out ways to wear modest skirts without looking frumpy. These ways work for me, but I’d love to hear your tips in the comments as well!

H&M shirt ; J.Crew belt (similar); vintage skirt (similar);
Forever 21 shoes (similar)

1. Wear heels.

If you’re petite like me (I’m 5’2”.), this is definitely a must. Lengthening your legs is a must to fight the frump, especially when wearing skirts! I’m talking 2” heels or higher. I can’t tell you how I feel when I put on heels after dressing up for the day:  I finally feel complete.
J.Crew cardigan (similar); J.Crew Factory necklace;
Urban Outfitters top; Crossover skirt from Japan
2. Wear skirts at the waist, not the hip.

Wearing skirts at the waist definitely elongates your bottom half, which is what you want! I also feel as though it creates a very 1950s silhouette, which is very, very feminine. I have some skirts that actually fall at my hip naturally, but I belt them at my waist so they’ll stay up. Just a trick of the trade 😉

Forever 21 hat (similar); Forever 21 top ;
Uniqlo skirt; We Love Colors tights; c/o Blowfish

3. Pay attention to where the hemline falls.

Supposedly, just above the knee is the ideal length for making your legs appear longer. I don’t necessarily follow this rule, but it’s good to keep in mind. For me, I usually wear skirts somewherearound the knee area.

 
What tips have you got to wear modest skirts without looking frumpy?

Be Confident In Your Modesty by Emily

Hi! This is Emily from The Lovely Things. I am fairly new to the blogging scene. My blog is all about my life and my evolving style.

Something I’ve been thinking about lately is confidence. It seems like every girl has days when she thinks, “Ugh, I wish I could wear what other girls get to wear.” or “Nothing looks cute when you are modest.” Even though we have these thoughts, we know they could not be more untrue. It is all about confidence in your modesty. Confidence is an essential component to being able to rock an outfit. Confidence is not about how the outfit would look on someone else, where you purchased the items, or what people think about you. Confidence is about how you feel, and when you are confident, it shows. You do not need to start practicing your model strut in order to pull off your outfits. Clothes are about expressing your creative side and letting your personality shine.

Here are some tips to becoming more confident in your style:

Pick staple items that you are in love with.

If you do not have that “I will die if I don’t buy this!” feeling then you will not have a glow about you when you wear it.
Only wear an outfit if you feel good about it. 
When you feel good about your outfit, you find that you end up giving yourself compliments instead of put-downs, which builds up your confidence.
If you feel like your skirt just may be too short, then skip it. No one likes to play the “pulling it down all day” game.
Make things interesting.

Mix colors and patterns and experiment with layering. You will find that making bold steps in your style slowly makes you more confident about your abilities to put together interesting outfits. Who do you notice more? The girl wearing the usual jeans, tee, and cardigan or the girl who is thinking outside the box? You do not need to see her and think, “Oh, I wish I could be like her.” You can exude that confidence just as well as she can.
Forget about what other people think.

Your style is about you. An outfit on a confident person is infinitely more appealing than on someone who is looking for approval.

Remember that modesty can be sexy.